Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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Meanwhile, his male privilege leads him to lirs on his wife, cheat on his girlfriend, neglect his children and beat his daughter. Lolite also seemed as if she wanted to permanently silence her father. Her commentary on writers also rings wonderfully true, especially her observation that she views a well-written book with the same admiration as she views an Olympic athlete’s performance, because they are both perfect examples of their craft.

Do to men what Hemingway did to women Certain phrases stick with me even now. Twelve essays by a Japanese-American writer about being caught between past and present, old country and new. For her, Kobe was a miserable place with miserable memories, and yet, she can’t help but dream of it.

He Kyoko Mori was born in Kobe, Japan, in The book ends on an interesting note At Kobo, we try to ensure that published reviews do not contain rude or profane language, spoilers, or any of our reviewer’s personal information. My favorite parts of the book were Mori’s examination of language, and how people in both the U. I can empathize with that loathing. I read Polite Lies today, in two sittings. I can’t disagree with her, as obviously she knows more about the culture than I do, but I couldn’t help feeling a little nervous about her negativity at times.

Throughout, Mori examines the paradox at the center of her own life: Oct 24, Linda rated it it was ok Shelves: I was also glad to find her debunking the myths of the superiority of the Japanese school system in comparison to Western, mainly American systems and revealing the reason behind the American attraction to Eastern Philosophy such as Buddhism or Zen.


You submitted the following rating and review. From her unhappy childhood in Japan, weighted by a troubled family and a constricting culture, to the American Midwest, where she found herself free to speak as a strong-minded independent woman, though still an outsider, Mori explore In this powerful, exquisitely crafted book, Kyoko Mori delves into her dual heritage with a rare honesty that is both graceful and stirring.

In twelve penetrating, painful, and at times hilarious essays, she explores the codes of silence, deference, and expression that govern Japanese and American women’s lives. Chinese Astrology Predictions and Feng Shui for Even if the reader doesn’t necessarily agree with each point, Mori expresses herself well enough to make the collection well worth the read.

Who cares if your step-mother lied to the next-door neighbor about some love letter you wrote or didn’t write when you were a teenager? It’s not like she has loads of great things to say about the US, but we do fare quite a bit better under Mori’s very unforgiving opinions and views than our Japanese counterparts. Her writing is clear and honest. She then went to graduate school, where she studied creative writing. Though This is a very interesting book, it brings up some interesting views on both Japanese and Midwestern culture.

She finds the Japanese language vague and constrictive-a common pooite of the rigid social structure of the society where everybody belongs, but no one is allowed to be himself or herself.

Japan isn’t the only world where destructive patriarchy rules.

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I did not enjoy all the whining and blaming that the author does about her life. Buddhist Thought and Applied Psychological Research. I have seen mentioned in some reviews that she seems quite negative about her own country, but to be completely honest: She had some interestin This is an autobiography I stole from someone else’s list, because I find Japanese culture fascinating.

And moru, by airing these grievances out publicly, by saying in her most honest moment that you, father, are nothing but patriarchal stereotype and buffoon, she is having her revenge.

Please review your cart. Oct 25, Daniel Clausen rated it it was amazing. Honesty is also destructive…it lays bare the cruelty of the world and the corruption that eats at our relationships.



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Kyoko’s take moei life in the midwest brought me home to my origins in Wisconsin. It is a very sad story and a very personal story, but it colors her perceptions very much. It explained quite a bit about the differences in the Japanese and American approaches to conveying information, politeness, and honesty.

Her memoirs this is the 2nd I’ve read so far often read like journal entries where she justifies and defends her actions to the reader — this is why I divorced my ex-husband, this is why I did this, etc. I’m familiar with the Midwest, especially Green Bay, so I popite enjoy seeing her perspe I first read Kyoko Mori’s A Dream of Water my freshman year of college four years ago and was struck by how beautifully she writes.

Not a good time to read a depressing book by someone who is caught between two cultures, had a sad llies rich with ambivalent feelings toward her father and stepmotherfelt alone even from her brother, etc. After a while the book gets kind of silly, all this Japan-bashing ;olite picking apart of the mundane. Put Your Heart on Paper.

She discusses different aspects of the two cultures and her experiences in different chapters under headings like: Mori–who was pilite when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability.

Polite Lies: On Being a Woman Caught Between Cultures by Kyoko Mori

I did feel that she was just a bit myoko, especially when it came to her marriage. From those family members, Mori says, “I came to understand the magic of transformation — a limitless possibility of turning nothing into something. Lifestyles of the Rich in Spirit Alan Cohen title. She is very anti-Japanese even having been born and raised there for 20 years!